Every person has been angry from time to time. I have. Haven’t you?

Anger is normal, but some people have trouble controlling it. This can create lots of negative effects. It can ruin relationships, careers, or even lead to crime.

So it is important to learn to deal effectively with your anger. If you have a problem managing your anger, then read these tips carefully.

1. Close friends or family members are often understanding and easy to TALK to. Do you have someone like that in your life? Ask them if they would be willing to listen. Talking when you are angry allows you to tell your side of the story and tell why you are angry. But a good friend will be able to not only listen but also give you a different perspective – maybe something you have not thought about. Talking it out can help you to sort through all the issues involved with your anger.

2. During a fit of anger, WRITE down your thoughts and feelings. No one talks back so it is easier to get things off your chest. Writing can also help you identify different “triggers” that cause your outbursts. Writing by hand or on your computer both work well.

3. Have you ever wanted to do something PHYSICAL to someone? You’d like to “take it out” on them because they did something to you. Don’t assault the person. Use all that pent up energy at the gym, go for a run, or even hit a pillow. By releasing that energy on a neutral article, you can manage your anger and not hurt anyone in the process.

4. Although it may be difficult to get away, taking a VACATION or going some place to spend time alone is a great way to look at things from a different perspective. Remove yourself from the place that causes your anger and frustration and you can see things in a new way. You can find some solutions to your problem, too.

5. Prayer and meditation work well for some people with anger management problems. Both of these activities give you a chance to be alone with your thoughts in a way to release tension. Letting go of your anger and negative thoughts will make a positive change in your life.

6. You might also try some deep breathing exercises, any kind of physical exercise, getting more sleep, getting yourself outside to enjoy nature, learning to laugh, and either playing an instrument or listening to music. All of these are great methods for releasing your anger and therefore learning to manage your anger.

So work on using some of these ways to manage your anger. Uncontrolled anger brings lots of adverse consequences. Controlled anger will let you a happier life.

Searching for more resources to aid with managing your anger or the anger of a loved one? Click here for some excellent programs and books. It is possible to learn to manage your anger. Author Jeanene Fisher enjoys showing others how to live a positive life.