You’ve taken the plunge and signed up for an internet dating site. You’ve spent considerable time creating an amusing profile complete with photos. You’ve done your best to showcase yourself in a positive light.
Now the fun begins; it’s time to start searching for the man or woman of your dreams. Using the site’s built in search, you select your dream date’s criteria, hit the search button and wait for the results. Seconds later, your matches are displayed.
Now before you get too comfortable reading them, here are some things you should watch out for when looking for your Prince or Princess Charming. Qualities that speak volumes about a person, in a less than flattering way!
Spitefulness. The occasional sarcastic remark disguised as a joke is amusing. But if your date has nothing but sarcastic and critical things to say about the people in his or her life, think twice. Ask yourself this question; If your date says nothing upbeat and encouraging about anyone else, what is he or she going to say about you?
Past relationships. Almost everyone has had one, and that in itself is not an issue. But if your date has a half a dozen scary relationship stories, it should send up a red flag. You’ve likely had one or two of your own, and hopefully you’ve learned a thing or two, which is all perfectly normal. But someone who is a perennial victim is not likely to have learned anything from past mistakes.
Inappropriate Anger. Hey we all get angry sometimes, so what’s the big deal? Run of the mill anger isn’t an issue, but inappropriate anger is. People who get angry at anything and everything rarely take responsibility for their own happiness; they’d rather blame others. And sooner or later you’re going to be in the line of fire.
Too different. Even though opposites attract, the truth is that there are differences that may be too big to overcome. Things like religion, drugs and whether or not to have kids can all make or break a relationship. Go ahead and have some fun, but it will likely be for the short term rather than a lifetime.
Dating and internet dating is all about getting to know someone. Figuring out whether that person as a whole “fits” you. Your choosing someone to spend your life with, so choose wisely!